Soulmate

Soulmates... What are they? Who are they? Do they exist?

Soulmate. This words seem to arise every now and then in conversation, stories, dramas and dreams. Are there such thing as these people claimed to have a deep connection to you regardless how long you've known them, or how much you know of them?

I've been pondering over this issue for years. Some say it's a person that has a 'soul' connection even as deep as from a past life, someone who'd risk their life for you and understand you inside out and intuitively, and of course, vice versa. Such a strong friendship is clearly a blessing.

After watching Boys over Flower this dormant issue has once again occupied my thoughts.

Are soul mates lovers? Can lovers be soul mates too? Or are the exclusive of each other?

Well, surely if they are a true soulmate, who'd risk their life for you, go to the ends of the world with you and understand you or be there for you no matter what, they must love you. And if they love you (be it passion or kin love, as in like brothers, sisters, friends, parents etc.) surely it means they'll also find you attractive (personality, style, looks, and so on).

So. What makes them different to being your lover? The above factors surely would apply to lovers, right?

I figured one main reason why a soulmate may not be your lover is because of a restriction or barrier, for example; you find someone else MORE attractive, you're already with someone else, other issues (such as distance, family, or commitment phobia) and vice versa for the other person. Or you're the wrong gender (sexual orientation)

In conclusion... does that mean you'll only find soul mates other than your lover if these barriers and restrictions are present? 

However, assuming soul mates are what they are claimed to be.... lovers may not necessarily understand you as well as a soul mate.. but you love them so much, regardless.

Does that mean...

Soul mates (given the correct circumstances etc) are bound to be perfect partners and lovers, however lovers are not guaranteed to be soul mates?

If Gu Jun Pyo didn't attract Geum Jan Di through all that manic journey of an experience, she'd certainly find her soul mate and lover in Yoon Ji Hoo? Also, if only Yoon Ji Hoo had let go of his first love earlier or if Jan Di didn't feel so insecure being compared to his first love?

I feel sad that Yoon Ji Hoo had to be content with just being a soul mate rather a lover as well.

Barriers, barriers... love is difficult. Soul mates and friendship is tough. We need to appreciate and make the most of what we find (*^^*)

I'll let you ponder on it, because I'm still thinking too (*^^*)